Prayer & the Sovereignty of God: An inquiry from a dear friend. “If you remember, several months ago I asked your understanding of whether we should pray for the salvation of specific people. Here are a couple of reasons why I have that understanding. I cannot recall a single time in the New Testament where someone prayed for the salvation of another person. The only time I can think of in Scripture where one person prayed for the salvation of another person was Abraham in Genesis 17:18. My understanding of the verses is that Abraham, the father of them that believe, asked for the salvation of his son. God replied: 'I heard your request, but I have already chosen the spiritual seed of Isaac as those that were established in the eternal covenant with Christ.'' So, the only time God was asked in Scripture that someone be saved, His answer was no. After that, it seems that no one else asked. I am open and ask for instruction and guidance if you think I am wrong on prayer, both regular prayer and prayer for salvation. I will try to make it quick, but my thoughts regarding prayer, excluding praying for someone's salvation, are as follows. Prayer changes nothing in God's providence because God has foreordained all things. The LORD's interchange with Mary at Lazarus's grave gives an illustration. Mary protested the taking away of the stone at Lazarus's grave. The LORD told her: Said I not unto thee that if thou wouldest believe thou shouldest see the glory of God. Did Mary's prayer (request) affect what the LORD was going to do? Of course, not at all. He had already prophesied that He was going to raise Lazarus. But, the LORD told her that if she believed she would be able to see His Glory. That is my understanding of prayer. When we pray, through the guidance of Christ's Spirit indwelling us, He guides us to ask for such things as accord with His providence. Thereby when His will is done, we can rightly see that the LORD is sovereign over all things, and thereby we see the Glory of Christ. As I said, instruction on this matter would be most appreciated.”
Reply: This line of thought is one most believers rarely pause to examine. What is prayer in relation to a God whose will is immutable, whose decree is all-comprehensive, and whose eternal counsel actively governs all things? Isaiah 46:10. Once that question is faced honestly, it inevitably leads into the deeper issues bound up with it: God’s sovereignty, the true nature of prayer, and, as you mentioned, the notable absence of any New Testament example of believers praying for the salvation of a particular individual. Most “believers” instinctively talk about prayer as if they were altering the course of history, persuading God to take a different path, or pushing Him toward some alternative possibility; as though the Lord of heaven were weighing His options and waiting upon man to help bring His own purpose into clear alignment. But such a notion collapses the very moment we confess God to be “the One who worketh all things after the counsel of His own will.” If the decree is eternal, unchanging, and all-comprehensive, then every outcome is already fixed in the wisdom of God long before a believer ever opens his mouth. That means, blessedly, prayer cannot possibly be an attempt to change God, nor does Scripture ever frame it that way. Job 23:13.
Just as you pointed out, Scripture offers not a single instance of a believer praying for the salvation of a particular individual. The record is entirely silent. The closest example Scripture gives, Abraham’s request for Ishmael, is not met with consent but with a sovereign correction that points him back to God’s established decree. Abraham’s desire was sincere, but it was not aligned with God’s eternal purpose, and simply reflected the natural affections of a father rather than the sovereign purpose of God. And the Lord, instead of granting the request, reveals the unalterable direction of His covenant: “Sarah shall bear thee a son indeed…but my covenant will I establish with Isaac.” Genesis 17:19-21. Here God makes clear that salvation and covenant blessing proceed according to His eternal election, not human desire or petition. In other words, God reveals that the line of promise was already settled, that mercy had already been sovereignly assigned elsewhere, and no human request could alter the counsel of His will.
Abraham’s intercession for Lot in Genesis 18-19 is similar. Abraham prays not for Lot’s salvation but for the sparing of Sodom. And even then, God does not modify His decree in the slightest. Judgment proceeds exactly as appointed, and Lot is delivered for reasons rooted in God’s own mercy, not Abraham’s effort. As Peter later affirms, God “delivered just Lot,” II Peter 2:7, by His own gracious determination, not because Abraham’s bargaining persuaded Him to act differently.
Scripture does record other instances of believers praying for others, but none of them involve pleading for the eternal salvation of a specific unbeliever. Job prayed for his friends, Job 42:8-10, but this concerned temporal forgiveness and the removal of God’s displeasure, not their eternal state. David prayed earnestly for the life of his child, II Samuel 12:16-18, yet even this petition dealt with temporal mercy, and the Lord’s decree stood immovable, for the child’s death had already been determined. II Samuel 12:14. The apostle Paul frequently prayed for individuals, Timothy, Philemon, and the Ephesian believers, but always for those who were already in Christ, never for the conversion of anyone apparently outside of Christ. And notably, throughout the entire New Testament record, we do not find a single example of a believer praying for the salvation of a particular unbeliever. In every example, prayer is shown as a movement of the heart toward God, an expression of need, reverence, and quiet submission to His understanding rather than our own.
Does this suggest that we cannot bring our concerns for someone’s salvation to the Lord? I personally don’t think that conclusion is warranted. What it does rule out is the idea that our prayers in any way determine or affect their salvation. But the desires and longings that rise within us for others, especially for those whose lives are intimately interwoven with our own, are not meaningless. They form part of the Lord’s way of fashioning our hearts; teaching us compassion, deepening our confidence, and enabling us to cast our cares upon Him rather than attempt to shoulder them alone. As the apostle reminds us, “casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you.” I Peter 5:7. These burdens themselves are often shaped by the Lord, formed in the heart by His Spirit, and they naturally move us to cry out to Him, not because we think prayer alters His decree, but because prayer aligns our hearts with it.
So, when our thoughts are stirred, and our hearts directed to call upon the name of the Lord on the behalf of someone, we are not questioning the sovereignty of His decree; we are acknowledging it. We are saying, in essence, “Lord, please be merciful, Psalm 86:15, thou art God alone, our life is in your hands, Acts 17:28; see this one, hopeless, helpless, and in need of your mercy. Ezekiel 16:6. If it would please you Lord, to open their eyes, Acts 26:18, to put a word in their hearts, Jeremiah 31:33, to show them their desperate situation, Ephesians 2:12, and drive them to Christ. John 6:37. Thou alone can save. Undergirding every true cry of the heart is this quiet certainty, “it is the LORD; let Him do what seemeth Him good.” I Samuel 3:18. Every plea is made through Christ, every outcome belongs to Christ. His will is perfect, His wisdom infinite, His purpose unchangeable. “For of Him, and through Him, and to Him, are all things, to whom be glory forever. Amen.” Romans 11:36.
We pray out of what God has already decreed, and we rest because His purpose is sure. “Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10. In that quiet certainty, prayer becomes an act of worship, not because we have managed to yield ourselves or made our wills more compliant, but because the Lord Himself bends our hearts beneath His hand. And when He does, prayer is simply the soul responding to God’s own work, a God-wrought bowing before the One who does all things well. “My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him.” Psalm 62:5.
Incidentally, this may be a good moment to remind ourselves that when believers speak of the Lord “saving” someone, we never mean that salvation is undecided until God acts in time, or that an individual’s salvation is somehow “still in question.” Nor do we suggest that God’s saving purpose is in any sense reactatory, triggered by something within us, or dependent upon some condition we fulfil. And far less do we imply that salvation is somehow unsettled until the Spirit applies it in time. We mean the unveiling and personal application of what God has long ago decreed and completed in Christ, Ephesians 1:4, not the settling of anything uncertain. Salvation was secured in Christ before the foundation of the world, ratified in His death, and declared in His resurrection. Romans 4:25. The moment of conversion is not when salvation becomes real but when it becomes known. Ephesians 1:18. It is the Spirit shining light upon a work already finished, bringing the soul into the conscious enjoyment of a redemption accomplished outside of them, for them, and long before they drew breath. Thus “being saved” refers to the awakening of a heart to the truth of God’s eternal purpose, not the formation of that purpose in time. II Timothy 1:9.
And so, with salvation understood as something already completed in Christ, this brings us back to the question of prayer and what it means to bring an individual before the Lord. When we speak of praying for individuals, we do not mean praying in order to change their destiny or influence the secret workings of God’s grace; we are laying them in the hands of the ONE who alone holds life and death, mercy and judgment. Such prayer is not an attempt to alter God’s decree, but a confession that we yield ourselves, and those we love, to whatever that decree may be. Deuteronomy 32:39.
When I consider my prayers for those around me, each one a person the Lord has deliberately woven into my life and, at times, into my intercessions, I find that the impulse behind them is not as pure as I might wish. I would love to say that every burden springs chiefly from zeal for Christ’s glory, yet most often it arises from a sense of compassion, a kinship of weakness. Philippians 2:4. It reminds me of the dying thief’s words in Luke 23:40, “dost not thou fear God, seeing thou art in the same condemnation?” That single line captures the shared desperation of the whole human race. His words remind me that we all share the same helpless condition by nature, and that whatever concern rises in me for another is really a recognition of my own need for mercy. Psalm 51. My petitions become expressions of fellowship in ruin, laid before a “God who is rich in mercy.” Ephesians 2:4. And it seems at times that, in this very way, the Lord uses our own sense of need to turn our hearts toward others, drawing them into our thoughts and into our prayers.
As so I believe the LORD brings people into our lives, and into our thoughts, in order that we do pray for them, regardless of any other considerations. Are we going to pray for someone only because to us they show some “marks” of grace, or indications that they belong to Christ? As in everything, we may not know what we ask? Matthew 20:22. In a paradoxical way, it is precisely because we believe in the absolute sovereignty of God, who has meticulously fashioned all things to serve His own glory, that we can commit the safety of our souls “to Him in well doing, as unto a faithful Creator.” I Peter 4:19. And even in committing ourselves into His hands, we lean neither on our “strength” nor on our “weakness,” but on the unshakable certainty that the LORD keeps His people and accomplishes all His purpose. Summarized as, our hope is in the Lord alone! Salvation is of the Lord. Isaiah 46:10. As our thoughts are formulated in harmony with what God has clearly declared in his word, (otherwise known as “the mind of Christ,” I Corinthians 2:16,) which is all we can go by, being confidently assured of this, that it is GOD which worketh in us “both to will and to do of his good pleasure,” Philippians 2:13, which includes our prayers.
That fits perfectly with the admonition, “be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” Philippians 4:6. Why pray “in everything”? Not as a means of securing outcomes or getting things, but to behold everything in the light of God's purpose in Christ. Ephesians 1:11. That is a profound key to understanding prayer. We see this most vividly in the Lord’s interaction with Mary at Lazarus’s tomb. When Christ says, “if thou wouldest believe, thou shouldest see the glory of God,” He is not saying, “your belief is the trigger.” The trigger was the decree, and faith the lens, the spiritual capacity to recognize the hand of Christ when it moved. “For God, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” II Corinthians 4:6.
In my own experience, when it comes to praying for others, I do not believe I have ever told someone, “I will be praying for you.” The words never seem to rise naturally in me. I may feel compassion for them, I may feel a deep sense of empathy, and at times a real burden, but to promise prayer feels foreign, almost as though I were claiming the power to summon something in myself that I know I cannot produce. At best I have said, “I’ll be thinking about you,” which is true, and those thoughts sometimes rise into prayer. But to promise prayer outright feels dangerously close to suggesting that prayer is something I can initiate at will. It is not. Proverbs 16:1. True prayer cannot be commanded into existence by human will; it must arise from the Spirit’s own movement within us. Galatians 4:6.
The religious world talks endlessly about prayer, but seems to grasp very little of its true nature. True prayer cannot be summoned by human impulse; we cannot command it into existence, nor adjust it to our timing. Genuine prayer must be wrought by the Spirit of the Lord, who alone helps our infirmities and formulates our petitions. Romans 8:26. “For we know not what we should pray for as we ought,” but thanks be unto God, our access is certain, for it rests solely within the parameters of the merits of Christ. We come to God only through Christ, and only in the Spirit’s enabling. “For through Him we both have access by one Spirit unto the Father.” Ephesians 2:18. Every true prayer rises on this ground alone, and without that access, there is no prayer at all. When prayer is rightly understood as God’s work in the soul, the futility of humanly engineered “instruction” becomes unmistakable. And here the contrast could not be more striking.
We cannot generate true prayer any more than we can generate life itself. Such a thought immediately exposes the futility of what often passes for “instruction” on prayer, and the superficiality of the many books promising to teach men how to pray. You might as well attempt to write a manual on how to be born again as to produce a handbook on how to pray. Yet the religious world is full of such books, stitched together by men like E.M. Bounds or George Müller, books that once had a place in the infancy of my own theological library. But prayer, in those systems, is reduced to a technique, a discipline, a skill one can acquire if only the right formula is followed. They reveal a theology that begins with man; man initiating, man awakening himself, man stirring up devotion. But true prayer begins with God. It is the Spirit who quickens, the Spirit who burdens, the Spirit who gives utterance. Any approach that starts with man cannot lead to God. John 6:63.
This contrast between manufactured religion and Spirit-wrought prayer is worth pausing over. Manufactured religion teaches men how to pray; the Spirit teaches men that they cannot pray. Romans 8:26. Man-centered “spirituality” always begins with man, it assumes that he is capable of stirring up devotion, capable of generating desire, capable of producing acceptable prayers before a holy God. It assumes that spiritual life can be manufactured so long as the method is correct and the sincerity and zeal behind it strong enough. Hence the endless exhortations to, “pray more, pray harder, pray longer, pray better,” as though spiritual life could be increased by human pressure or refined by technique. But this reduces the work of God to a predictable formula, as though life from heaven could be triggered by fleshly zeal and intensity. It shifts the entire weight of spiritual reality onto the creature, forgetting that whatever is born of the flesh remains flesh, no matter how devout the effort. This sort of self-generated devotion says, “pray this way and God will respond.” It is Pelagian in its roots and Arminian in its methods. Spirit-wrought prayer says, “God must work first, or nothing we do is prayer at all.” Philippians 2:13. It begins with God, is formed by God, and returns to God through the merits of Christ. “For through Him we both have access by one Spirit unto the Father.” Ephesians 2:18.
Flowing from this, we must face another related misconception, the common idea that prayer alters outcomes, persuades God to reconsider, or somehow “moves the hand of God.” Such a thought cannot stand when placed beneath the light of God’s absoluteness. Prayer changes nothing in God, but it changes everything in us, and though it sounds almost cliché, I have found it to be undeniably true. Psalm 73:25-26. Scripture repeatedly affirms that God “worketh all things after the counsel of His own will.” Ephesians 1:11. If all things are already established in His eternal purpose, then prayer cannot be a means of modifying the divine plan. Rather, prayer must be understood within the framework of God’s immutable counsel.
Prayer changes things? Let’s think about that for a moment. What if that were actually true? What if the eternal decree of God, an all-comprehensive decree rooted in infinite wisdom, love, justice, and power, Isaiah 46:10, could be revised because we happened to feel strongly about something at a given moment? What if the course of nations, the salvation of souls, the rise and fall of empires, or even the path of our own lives could be steered off course by our shortsighted wishes? That would not be prayer; it would be chaos. The very idea should make us shudder. For if prayer could truly “change things,” then the perfection of God’s plan would be constantly at risk of being overwritten by our ignorance, our fears, our misguided desires, and our sinful shortsightedness. Daniel 4:35. Such a universe would be terrifying, a world in which man’s voice could distort God’s purpose, and God’s purpose would need man’s voice to be complete. Job 23:13. And no believer who knows his own heart would dare shoulder that kind of influence. Who would even dare to pray? And once we see the impossibility, and the horror, of a universe shaped by human desire, the true nature of prayer comes into clearer focus.
This means that prayer cannot be an attempt to influence God’s decisions. Rather, prayer must be understood as the Spirit’s work in bringing the believer’s heart into harmony with what God has already willed. Your example of Mary at Lazarus’s tomb illustrates this with remarkable clarity. Mary’s request altered nothing; Christ had already declared His intention. The raising of Lazarus was fixed in the divine purpose. The only thing Mary’s faith affected was her ability to perceive the glory of Christ when it appeared. Her belief did not produce the miracle; it simply enabled her to behold it rightly, moving her into the posture of seeing and savoring the glory of Christ as it was revealed before her. And what was true for Mary is true for us as well, faith does not change what God does, but how we perceive what He does. Psalm 27:13.
Thus, believers pray “in everything,” not to escape difficulties, nor to influence the unfolding of their circumstances, but because prayer is the divinely appointed means by which the anxious heart is quieted, the darkened understanding is enlightened, and the soul is taught to rest in the immutable goodness of God’s purpose. When God’s will unfolds, the praying heart is made able to trace His hand and rejoice in His sovereignty. “He shall not be afraid of evil tidings, his heart is fixed, trusting in the LORD.” Psalm 112:7. The result is peace, not because the future is uncertain, but because it is settled in the wisdom and love of Christ.
And so we return to the original question. Should we pray for the salvation of specific individuals? Scripture gives us no command to do so, and no example of believers doing so; yet neither does it forbid the believer from laying before the Lord the very burdens He Himself has awakened within the heart. What we must guard against is assuming that prayer can intrude upon, redirect, or in any way adjust the eternal counsel of God concerning salvation. Isaiah 14:27. We do not pray to alter what God has purposed, but because God has purposed. It is the Spirit who moves us to entrust that soul to the One who “worketh all things after the counsel of His own will,” that the glory of Christ might be seen in whatever He appoints. In the end, true prayer is not an effort to secure a particular result, but a confession that all results belong to Christ. We pray, not to make things certain, but because they are certain, and in that posture the soul finds rest. “Be still, and know that I am God, I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.” Psalm 46:10. MPJ